Wedding story

I love weddings but it is rare that I can be easily impressed no matter how grand, artistic, extravagant or expensive they are. Please allow me to tell you about a memorable wedding that my husband and I had the privilege to witness a year ago.

The heavens opened wide that morning. I meant literally; it was a downpour. It was supposed to be a summer wedding in July but it was held in England, where weather is a source of fascination on a day-to-day basis.

This particular wedding was very special and different. The family and friends of the couple were all well-dressed but I did not notice a hint of self-importance from anyone. The wedding was not about the groom; he appeared very relaxed and tranquil in his suit. It was not all about the beautiful bride either. She walked along the aisle stunning in her lovely ivory dress, with a tiara adorning her hair — but the lady behind the veil was not the sole (or main) focus of the event.

Rather, throughout this wonderful moment of their lives, the couple chose to glorify Jesus. The songs were carefully picked signifying the love, hope and happiness that is found in Christ alone. The Bible reading and message focused on the basics of marriage: mutuality of love, contentment, faithfulness to one another and hope in Christ (Hebrews 13:1-6).


The favours were ‘Christmas crackers’. Inside these were small gifts but more importantly, a Bible verse written for every guest. The wedding speeches were words of humour-infused sweetness, but Christ was never forgotten by every speaker.

My reflections brought me to question, “How often do we hear couples say, ‘We would like to have a Christ-centered wedding’?”

Before everyone becomes very pre-occupied about the dresses, flowers, rings, guests, cakes, catering, drinks, suits, music, candles, bridal registers, speeches; would it be more appropriate to desire for a union founded upon the love of Christ more than anything else? The key to blissful wedded life is about sharing a life together where Christ is present, is it not?

This particular wedding was not all about tangible things but it will be remembered by  those present because the overflowing love of Christ was there.

(A reflection of a Christian wedding held in Warwickshire, England; originally written two days after the event.)


Nursing — a vocational profession.

Yesterday, a patient who was recovering very slowly and feeling so sorry about herself said to me “I am sorry that you have to work harder because of me”. I replied, “Nurses can only say they have done their work well if they helped their patients to feel better. If I have done that even at a slightest measure today, I have done what I was paid to do.”
Notice the word that I used: “paid”. Although historically, nursing has been viewed as a vocation, nursing has evolved into a very important profession with a key role in the society. However, evidence shows that nurses’ pay is still relatively low especially when attributes such as critical thinking, quick decision-making and problem solving are taken into consideration. Many nurses who had completed post-graduate studies are not being paid at par with those who have similar educational level in other professions.
Being a lowly paid profession, one can argue that nursing is a profession but remains partly a vocation.


Have you ever experienced this?

While walking happily and confidently

Sometimes with someone very special

Your face hits an invisible thread

A cobweb.

And then you smile.

This illustrates that although in life

We try to plan everything

There are things or matters

That are not entirely visible.

When you hit a cobweb

Do you fall or smile?



The missing poo

I wish there is an easy way to explain this but yesterday, we lost a very important poo. It is important because it will lead us to an information that will affect our team’s next plan of action. It could potentially result to a big movement.

Many may consider poo as a useless piece of s**t. There is truth in this–in principle, it is one of the body’s waste products. Nobody really looks back before getting rid of it in a flush! However, it is worth a person’s while to take some time to check the colour, consistency, appearance and odour of their poo. You read it right: although non-specific, poo appearances can spot a possible diagnosis.

Upon hearing the news, I went straight to the patient’s room. “I have great news, it was found and it was negative!”. He and his wife laughed crisply. He may be laughing because of one or all of these reasons or none at all:

  • He does not have to produce another poo sample
  • It was negative
  • He never gave as much attention about poo prior to this day
  • He had never met anyone so interested in his poo before.

Because the poo sample was found, test confirmed that we do not need to commence antibiotics. We did not have to isolate the patient. We did not have to investigate if his loose bowel movement that morning was due to the food that was served from the kitchen.

The poo in question has always been there in the laboratory.

Poo lost. Poo found.

What I learned about cybersecurity

I am not pretending to be a #cybersecurity expert, as a matter of fact I only attended a free event advertised through Eventbrite. Pure curiosity, nothing else.

Three talks from three experts. Things I learned:

  • When the cybersecurity expert mentioned that he got his hayfever from a friend he saw yesterday implying that  #hayfever is communicable, I thought “I knew something he doesn’t”. Yes!!!
  • A cleaner can overpower a company Chief Security Information Officer (CSIO). The event was held at the reception area after working hours. While the CSIO was talking about company strategy, the cleaner started hoovering (British term for the use of vacuum cleaner while cleaning). The CSIO struggled to present. I found it funny — of course almost everyone else was not fascinated.
  • A few things used to manage cybersecurity breaches that may be applied to daily life: Identify potential issues. Prepare your response. Plan recovery. Never assume that ‘it will not happen to you”. “I will deal with it when it happens to me” is not a great idea. Practice how to deal with what may happen. Expect the unexpected — be imaginative  on identifying and how you will deal with a potential threat, issue, or risk. Practice, practice, practice!
  • Prevention is key. Maintain layers of prevention/defence.